Posts by Ileana

Feeling Overwhelmed?!

Don`t know what to do next?!  Kinda wanting to start things but still unsure what exactly?!  then this might just give you a kick 

“Much of the time when people say they’re being analytical about their lives, they’re engaging in circular thinking with no drive towards a clear goal. They’re trying to figure out what to do by thinking about what to do.

That’s a mistake.

YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT YOU NEED TO DO BY DOING IT.

You need to explore. You need to gain experience since experience bestows tremendous clarity.

How do you know which foods you like? By tasting lots of different foods. How will you know what kind of lifestyle you’ll enjoy and can maintain? Same way… by exploring and experiencing different possibilities.

Even when you don’t know how you want to live, then pick something you’d like to taste.” (Steve Pavlina)

Stuff I’m Passionate About

 

Let’s talk passion today! Ole! 

First and foremost, your passion in life does not equal your mission.

You can be passionate of so many things at the same time. For instance, I’m passionate about sports, I even went “to school” got trained as a Personal Trainer, then I trained for a marathon,  then for another one and so on but that does not mean my mission in life is sports. Of course I love what sports can do for you: great energy, you feel empowered, you look great and nonetheless you get to eat whatever you want (most of the times, at least!).

I’m passionate about the art of telling stories and/ or public speaking. Because I know and I’ve witnessed the power of it. Getting people inspired and most importantly getting people to take action as an in-direct result of sharing your story – this is fantastic! That’s why I spent so many years in learning & development. Witnessing change, being the change agent, facilitating change through the work one does I think it’s one of the most fulfilling things for me.

Nutrition/ getting good habits is another topic I’m going crazy over it. Because just like storytelling this “tiny” habit can make or brake anything. You can be brilliant at what you do, but without eating healthy & balanced and mostly without LISTENING!!! to your own body you won’t get very far. This physical body we’re in it’s our home here on this Earth, think of it like its your very own car: you get to travel anywhere you want to go but unless your car is properly cared for, your oil is changed, your tires are pumped and you have a full tank you won’t get very far. We only realize the importance of all this sadly and mostly when some parts of the engine are starting to choke and need fixing. Ouch! Many of us need a “wake up call” and some of us have been getting a more or less gentle one depending on our circumstances. So yeah, nutrition matters! No body, nobody does the work. Pun intended.
So drink that glass of water, throw in a handful of nuts and reach for a banana instead of sweets.

Cooking is pretty obvious. But for me it’s mostly about getting to transform and create things on a very physical and visual way. You get a bunch of “stuff” and out of this pile of boxes and fresh goodies just like flipping a magic wand some time later they all blend into an amazing dish. Taaa-da! And then you get to eat it. And it tastes delicious. It’s a feast for the eyes and a delight for your taste buds. And to think of it it was just a bunch of apparently non-related things sitting on your kitchen counter. Wow!

Another big one is building a circle of people who support you and who CARE for your well-being. Whatever you want to achieve, to be-do-have, anything in THIS world revolves around who you know and who knows you. Now I’m not talking about the old “go to an event, get as many cards as possible and hand out your own” networking “strategy”. I am talking about approaching differently the people you meet in all walks of your life (be it at work or in your own time).

Admit it, when you were a kid things were easy: you just went and played with other kids. You made friends. You had a lot of “exposure” given the amount of free time you had back then. Now as an adult you hear yourself saying this over and over “I don’t have the time” or “time is money!” or “I’m not sure I can make time for this”. Less time, less exposure, less people. If this were completely true is says that as you grow older your number of new friends shrinks. Unless you intentionally and purposefully go and make things happen.

To be honest with you this is “thing” that I’ve always done naturally just like breathing. You see, I’ve always been curious about people. Of course you can “fake” it but people “smell” that miles away (dishonesty and so does desperation have the same “smell” but more on this later). Ever since I was a kid I kept striking up conversations with everybody. At some point my mum even made a joke saying that “you’d be great at bringing Death over ’cause by the time you come back everyone would be long gone” !! stating that whenever she’d send me to get something from the store I’d always come back hours later as I always got so absorbed talking to everybody from the shop assistant to the milkman and our next door neighbor about anything and everything.

So by age 8 I knew everything about everyone from our neighborhood, kids’ parents, shop assistants, older kids, school teachers etc. Some of the most amazing things I’ve done (like getting an all-expenses paid trip to Asia in my 20’s or staying at the Ritz, etc) would not have ever been possible if for my unique way of relating to people.

You see curiosity brings with it a sense of play, and this is what we are all craving as adults. The freedom and joy that comes from not having an outcome attached to the experience and just taking things as they come. Kids are not afraid of failing. Kids are not afraid of success. Kids don’t have a notion of “oh, maybe I should be playing this over that because this will matter on my grade list”.

Exploring with a sense of wonder and innocence. And being amazed by the outcome. Whatever that might be. Because when you tie yourself to “this and only this” you are going to miss out on everything else. And staying open and receptive is the number 1 thing you can do at all times regardless where you’re at, your age or your income level.

So here’s to amazing exploratory trips down the road of life. in this year that has just started! 

May this be the start of a beautiful friendship. 

Now, tell me what are YOU passionate about?!  What makes you giggle and kick your feet? Drop me a line in the comments & let me know.

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xox

Ileana.

How You Choose Goals When You’re Multi-Passionate & Wanna Do E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G

There is a voice that doesn't use words.

Today’s topic revolves around goal setting and how you choose goals. How do you know they’re right for you and how do you make sure you stay on track and achieve those goals.

If you are a multi-passionate just like yours truly then you might know by now what does NOT work for. Which is following the same “old” advice that goes “just stick to 1 thing only, pick 1 thing and get super good at it”. Yeah, right! It might work for these “linear” people who see things in terms of black and white. But when there’s more than 50 shades of grey when it comes to what your interests & passions are – pun intended – that approach will fail you 100%.

When you have many interests which you are pursuing at the same time it’s easy to get scattered and feel you are not getting much done.

What I have discovered to be of help is working with “process goals”. Instead of setting 3 different goals with little impact & growth / added value such as: loose 5 pounds, learn German, cook dinner at home at least 3 times/ week, etc. Go instead for 1 BIG process goal such as “run Boston marathon 12 months from today” and see what happens. Since running a marathon is such a big & complex goal which involves you getting transformed into this whole new person which you’re not at the moment (which is a marathoner!) you’ll have no choice other than to cook dinner at home 3 times/ week (or at least have something ready for when you come back from your runs), you’ll lose more than 5 pounds for sure, you can listen to an audiobook in German while you’re at it running around the park and you’ll feel just awesome since exercise gives you so much endorphins. Makes sense?!

You can apply the same process to pretty much any other type of goal such as “get a promotion at work “(super vague, generic, nothing in there to help you grow). Try instead turning this into a process goal. Ask yourself “who is 1 person I look up to at work? What are they’re top 3 qualities that I would like to get some of that? How can I use these 3 qualities into my own work?!”. This brings so much openness and opportunities for growth so much more than a bland “I want a promotion”. After answering these q’s you can work the details on your own (get specific with what you want to have in your job).

A friend of mine asked me recently “how do you know if a goal is right for you?”. Or where/ how do you set these goals? Do they come from your mind? (like after doing a brainstorming session). Do they come as a result of talking to someone you trust? Are you setting a certain goal just because this is popular among your friends?!

I’m sure you have noticed by now that whenever you set a goal because you think “this is the right for me to do” or “I should be doing this by now” or “all my friends are getting married/ having babies/ working up the corporate ladder, etc.” that particular goal never seems to come to life. It gets moved from your to-do list to the next month and then the next Monday and soon enough the year is over and you realized that it’s the2nd or 3rd time that nasty goal keeps jumping from page to page in your daily planner.

When it comes to yourself there is only 1 expert who knows what’s best for you. And that expert my dear it’s YOU. Of course others can/ will help but when it comes to making the decisions it’s you and you alone. So don’t try to “blame” it on your family, or friends or mentors or partners. They surely want you to succeed and be happy. But most of the times their vision of happiness is worlds’ apart from what you own vision looks like. They will advise you by saying what THEY think it’s best for you. So what can you do then?

Well there’s a beautiful quote from Rumi saying “there’s a voice that doesn’t use words. Listen.” You can sit and do exactly that. Just that. Listen to yourself. How you do that?! Well one of the easiest ways is to “sweat it out” put on your sneakers and go for walk or do some sports, anything that will get you heart pumping for at least 30-45 mins. Then come back, take a shower, change, relax and get some stretching. Ask yourself “what do I really want? What would I do if I was not afraid?!”. And listen.

As simple as that.

Enjoy!
Xox

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Drop me a line in the comments below and let me know what would you like to get done by the end of this year (that’s 362 days from today, yay!).

Listen!